So, here’s my list of just a few of the ways that you’re doing it all wrong: There’s nothing worse than feeling like you’re being interviewed on a date or when you suspect your date is measuring you against some sort of future-spouse checklist instead of getting to know who you really are.
When you’re meeting someone new, relax and throw out the lengthy checklist so you can start to see beyond the superficial.
There’s a great scene in the movie where Keaton attempts (and fails) to accomplish the very simple task of dropping his sons off at school.
Made in 1983, the film chronicles the adventures (or rather, misadventures) of Michael Keaton, who becomes a stay-at-home dad while his wife is out, making big bucks at an ad agency.
Some girls might call this a fuckboy activity or whatever. And at that time, consistently meant once or twice a week for me. Whenever we did link up, we had a non-sexual good time.
But deep down, I knew I could never give her exactly what she deserved. Things became really iffy when I met my soon-to-be ex, Christina*. A different kind of fuse was lit almost immediately, and I fell head first against my better judgement.
Alex and I are back on speaking terms, and Christina is clear out the picture after making a few brief reappearances. We recently met up during a quick vacation I took to Miami.
When I looked her in the eyes and came clean about what I had done, she didn't hesitate to forgive me. She even hit me with the “You never know what the future may hold” line.
But, I do know what the future doesn't hold: I'm never going back to Florida on a permanent basis.
Talk about your passions; encourage your date to talk about his passions — find out what you have in common. I’ve been there: You meet a guy who seems utterly perfect for you and your chemistry is on fire.
Suddenly, you start to feel like you’ll die if it doesn’t work out, as if he’s the last guy with whom you’ll ever have chemistry.
There was something there that led me to believe she had the potential to be a long-term suitor.